I can say with certainty that where ever you are right now and with whatever is going on in your life, it will change! It won't always be like this. Try to see the bigger picture of your days and know that it all passes, usually too quickly!
Count them folks, that is 8 kids ages 2 to 7, 3 of them 2 yr olds and still in diapers. That's a lot of little kids for a grandmother to wrangle on her own all day! Our bodies are not up to it most times or our nerves. And I don't know about your kids, but these kids are uber full of energy and noise and arguments and crazy wonderful imaginations! And oh the messes they can make. I don't have this many kids all the time, only on occasion. On days I do though, it kinda turns into a wild kind of craziness that can put me over the edge (literally!) or fill me with joy. How do I know which kind of day it will be? By the choices I make.
If I am not careful, my days caring for my grandchildren will find me acting like a Martha and not a Mary. As I write this, they are running all over the house and I am trying to quickly write this down while it is on my mind. It would be easy to turn on the TV and command them to sit there for a bit while I do my thing. That's what me as Martha would do. Mary would patiently be interrupted over and over and deal with what ever situation arose with kindness and love.
If I am not careful, the Martha in me would be annoyed, and perhaps also vocal about it, - when I finally get the chance to actually sit down with some needed food, then immediately hear a call from the bathroom for help before I take my first bite. My Martha tendencies would complain about never getting a chance to eat in peace at all. Mary would put her meal aside and answer the call peacefully and swiftly.
If I am not careful, messes would make the Martha in me complain about having to pick up AGAIN with my back aching to the point of feeling like there is a fire burning there, all the while - berating the kids for making the mess in the first place. The Mary in me would calmly see the mess as a thing of beauty where happy children played and then employ them to help clean up with joyfulness while counting her many blessings.
Yes I am a Martha who longs to live as a Mary. My 'to do list', my need to have things ascetically pleasing, my desire to organize and control and do things in a certain order.....need to daily be crucified. Hourly - to be crucified, so that I may live like a Mary inside my Martha skin; blessing these precious children with grace and mercy. Setting an example that I hope is followed, like muscle memory, into their everyday lives with all those they associate with....from now on!
I choose how I will be, who I will be like in every situation that comes, moment by moment. Setting an example is hard, make no mistake about that! When I say crucify... that invokes the thoughts of a gruesome sight doesn't it? That's right, setting examples is one. rough. job! But these are little people we are growing into adults! Adults who will one day be in charge of our world. We MUST do it right!
And don't misunderstand. I am not attempting to allow the kids to do what they want and run around trashing my house! That would not be at all what I am trying to accomplish. I want them to grow into responsible adults who value people and care how they treat them and how they allow others to treat them back. I have high expectations of their behavior and attitudes. Higher at times, than their own parents do.
Think of yourself as the stone that is thrown into a peaceful pond. What kind of splash do you make in their lives? Big or little? What is the ripple effect are YOU creating? Because once thrown, that stone will enter the surface of their hearts and minds with a splash, big or little. And it will create ripples that will go on, perhaps for a long time, maybe forever!
So when I took this picture of this happy little guy who had just finished eating a cupcake covered in chocolate frosting, I can be Mary, cropping out the mess and see only that smiling happy face. Martha doesn't see the smile, she sees the mess on his face, on his hands, on the table and floor and wonders why she let him eat that cupcake in the first place. How will she ever get him cleaned up! Martha wants to show you the picture of the table and floor and his hands along with that cute face so you can feel bad for her having to clean it all up. But I am not going to let her show you that pic, nope.....because I am choosing to act like Mary, I just crucified Martha - again ;)
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This is a thought provoking post.
ReplyDeleteAlthough I really do know my Bible stories, I have to admit my first thought was "What would Martha Stewart do?"
You could put Martha Stewart in there couldn't you? It certainly works!
DeleteHeavenly nad just what I needed to hear today. Off to be Mary.=) And ditto on Olga's comment.
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ReplyDeleteLove your post. I feel the same way - torn between the two opposite reactions. It isn't easy being a good role model for my granddaughters although I do my best.
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As a registered daycare provider, and mother of four - I find myself in this struggle daily! Love this post, as it's something on my heart and mind a lot during prayer.
ReplyDeleteThanks for this reminder to watch how we respond. Some days I'm better at being Mary, but I have to admit I struggle with my Martha tendancies too.
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ReplyDeleteLove this! I'm the mom of 8, grandma to 5 so far. I have 2 of them here today - it adds to the craziness, but I cherish the time we get to spend with them.
I'm pinning this post - I will revisit it often!
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Where were you when I was raising my daughters? I so struggled with the Mary/Martha issue when they were young. There were times I forgot they were children in my quest for perfection. God taught me many lessons during those years. I'm not sure how you "do" all of them at once. My fibro-self hurts just thinking about it. What an impact you are making in these little lives and the generation they are becoming.
ReplyDeleteYou are absolutely right. Setting a good example is not easy. I think it's actually the hardest job as a parent. Thank you for this post.
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I think both Martha AND Mary are too black and white and that you can be lucky if you just hover in the grey area most of the time! :) I am also going to link up for SIS a post of the other day called "Grandma Wants One of These" as you were one of the first people that I thought about when I saw it.
ReplyDeleteGet their parents to pitch in and buy one and LOL it looks like more Mary time would be on the way ....:)
What you do is amazing, Connie! :)
You said it perfectly! I love the way you described our behavior as grandmas as either Mary or Martha. I only have 2 granddaughters and usually one at at time and I have slowly come to be more like Mary than Martha. I had to ask myself why I was saying "NO" more than not when there was really no reason to....just let them have fun and make a mess (within reason) and clean it all up at the end of the day. Visiting from A Bouquet of Talent Linky party and following you via GFC!
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Thank you for sharing such wonderful encouragement! As a mom of young kids I fall into the "Martha" set of mind way too often. Thanks so much for linking this up to Frugal Crafty Home!
ReplyDeleteBy the way...how in the world do you find time to blog with all those little ones to care for? I have a hard time and I only have two ;)
As a parent or a grandparent I am sure there are always two sides to look at any situation. This is a great post!!
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Thank you for sharing at Who Needs a Cape? 's Super Sunday linky! Very inspiring!
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Good points And what a delightful photo! Thanks for the excellent "food for thought" (yup - pun intended :) :) :) )
ReplyDeleteGreat post! I absolutely have my moments on both sides.
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Wow! Writing with 8 running around! I only have 2 and I go through the same struggle daily. So glad you take time to choose how you will react and try to stay positive. It's definitely a hard choice some days!
ReplyDeleteWhat a great post and definitely something to think about as you go through your day. I think I need to choose to be Mary more in my life!
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Such a lovely post. I can be a Martha sometimes with my 3 yo. Thanks for opening my eyes!
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Anjana.
I can not tell you how much I needed this post today. I am at home with a 3 year old and a 1 year old and I love them more than my next breath and they are so sweet and fun but there are days I don't have the patience I should or don't approach things with a happy heart. Years ago I did a study on Mary and Martha and definitely needed the reminder. Thank you for sharing at All Things Pretty!
ReplyDeleteOh my! You were talking to me. Sometimes I rush through blogs, but for some reason you caught my attention and I was meant to read this. Martha or Mary?
ReplyDeleteI have to decide some days. When my grandchildren are around I sometimes forget who I should be. Thanks for the reminder of what's important.
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You said it so well! I'm sure many will find encouragement here.
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I am definitely a Martha trying to live more Mary-like. Thank you for the beautiful reminder. Thanks for sharing at Inspire Us Thursday at Organized 31.
ReplyDeleteGreat post and love the picture of the kids! Cute!
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Great post! Very thought provoking and applicable to more than grandchildren! Thanks so much for sharing on Busy Monday!
ReplyDeleteGreat post! I think we all have our Martha moments. Hopefully we are like Mary more often than we are like Mary. thanks for sharing with SYC.
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Inspiring and encouraging words...I'm so glad you shared them at the Rock 'N Share! Hope you’ll come again soon! Have a great holiday! Blessings, D@TheShadyPorch
ReplyDeleteWhat a fabulous post darlin'. The only one we have the power to control is ourselves and the choices that we make. Thank you so much for reminding me to make the most of what I have and what I do. Choose to be the gracious host and honor what's important. Krista @ A Handful of Everything
ReplyDeleteGOD bless you and your family
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